Sometimes I am amazed by what I don’t know. Until I read the excellent book Indian Country, by Kurt Schlichter (get it here for your Kindle), I had not really heard the terms “cisnormative, cisgendered, and cis-het.”
Apparently when we assume cisnormativity (i.e., that girl looks good in that dress) and we “assume” someone is male or female based on their job, their looks, or the appearance of secondary sex characteristics like beards and boobs, that is somehow “hurtful to the trans community.” Does that make your head hurt a little?
It is amazing to me that when liberals talk about how we all have to listen to what science says about climate change (which, truthfully, is not real science), we are then told to ignore science when it tells us that there are two genders: male and female. While a scientist would make an exception for a genuine hermaphrodite, the vast majority of the world’s population is either male or female. Really, there is no confusion on biology. It’s binary.
In order to normalize abnormal behavior (women behaving like men, men dressing and behaving like women), the “trans community” tells us to quit assuming gender identity because in spite of being able to tell precisely what you are by looking in your shorts (or panties), they believe that by dint of will they can assume a different “gender identity.” I’ve tried this with my checkbook. If I had assumed I was a millionaire and I wrote bad checks, my guess is that the law would tell me that mathematics is a field with right and wrong answers, and ask me to visit a nice correctional institution for re-education in the basics.
Now, this is not to say that there are not people who, rightly or wrongly depending on your religious views, like to have sex with members of their own gender, or to somehow label that behavior as abnormal. Since at least the time of Sodom and Gomorrah such behavior has been existent and although likely a dominant factor in the spread of HIV, has not really hurt anyone yet. It’s not abnormal. It may be a choice, or it may be a genetic factor, or it may just be the way God made people. My view is that we are to live and let live. I accept that people may want to engage in a homosexual relationship, and that’s fine with me. Just leave me out of it. Don’t want to see it, and don’t want to be it.
Similarly, I understand that men may want to shave very close, put on lipstick and a wig, and speak an octave or two higher than they would normally in order to be seen as a woman. I think it’s kind of dumb, but, hey, what do I know? Just leave me out of it. I am cisgendered, and I like it. I sleep with a woman. That’s the way God intended it for me, but hey, maybe not for you. Jesus said judge not lest you be judged. Live and let live is a good motto for me. And truthfully, no one should care what you do in the privacy of your own bedroom. And that goes double for the government.
Unfortunately, not everyone has that “judge not” mentality. I get it. I imagine it could be hurtful in a very real physical sense if someone bigoted beat up someone who had made different choices with respect to how they wish to express their gender. I’m against that. But I’m also against being verbally slapped around because I “assumed someone’s gender.” I don’t care what you think you are. Just don’t try to foist off your world view on me. I’m not going to pretend that what you’re doing is normal in my world. If I look at you funny because you are dressed like a woman and use the urinal in Target (yes, that happened to me), I do not need a lecture. I need you to leave. And, no, I don’t care if that’s hurtful to you. Sorry (but not really).
It’s not my world view that men should act as women. And I don’t care if I hurt your feelings by assuming your gender. Your gender is what nature provided. If that’s an uncomfortable truth for you, then I suggest you learn to live with disappointment.